We need to talk about the normalization and glorification of infidelity. It has risen to astronomical levels, and whether we think it affects our thoughts on marriage or not, it does.

Recently, I read an article on an interview Torrei Hart did for Vibe.com, and she discusses where she’s at in life, and her new found appreciation for side bitches.

“You men just got to be more upfront. See here’s the thing, I appreciate a good side b*tch. There’s days I don’t feel like doing sh*t, let that side b*tch do that job. There’s days I don’t feel like sucking d**k. There’s days I don’t feel like cooking and cleaning,” the 40-year-old said. [Vibe.com]

HolupholupholupholupHOLD.UP. What in the entire f*ck are you talking about? “Glorifying side bitches?” Is this where we have fallen in 2018? Ya’ll, I’m tired.

I read several articles regarding Torrei Hart’s newfound confidence, and wanting to be a positive source of inspiration for women going through tough breakups or hardship.

If that was what you were trying to do, girl you failed. I don’t wanna read nothing about side bitches. In what world would a woman who was married, be happy that a side bitch existed? I find it problematic that our society is so adamant about giving mistresses a voice. Have we forgotten what a mistress actually is?

In case ya’ll weren’t familiar:

I’ve watched my parents go through it in their 37 years of marriage. I can see how complex and difficult it can be. I can see how one can get to a point where it seems like the end is easier than fighting. But I’ve also seen them fight to stay together. I’ve seen them go through trials and battle through difficult transitions. But they always returned to where they began: as friends. My parents have such a deep respect for each other, that I admire and hope to have one day for myself. That’s why the Torrei Harts of the world are problematic. Torrei did an interview for Bombshell that discusses her career, co-parenting, and overcoming her failed marriage with Kevin Hart. In my opinion, you can keep it real about the pain and suffering you endured post breakup, and how you found your happy again. But don’t do yourself or other women a disservice by talking about side bitches being something that’s now “okay.” It’s not, it never was, it never will be.

Let’s stop thinking that being the ‘main’ girl is cute, when we all know being the “only” feels better. Let’s stop acting like we really wanna hear about mistresses, and giving them spaces to get a check by talking about their messy, disrespectful behavior. Let’s make glorifying commitment cool again.