Lately, I’ve been thinking about expectations.Specifically expectations in terms of how the opposite sex relates to each other. It seems like women are giving up more of their rights, and it’s really fucking us up in the long run. What I mean when I say rights is the ‘power of the pussy.’ You know when you’re hanging out with a boy and maybe you been hanging out for a few weeks. And all of a sudden it comes time to decide when to give it up. There’s like this unspoken expectation because he has invested ‘x’ amount of time with you, and now it’s time to pay up. This really bothers me. Scratch that, it irks my spirit. Since when are you entitled to anything? Why are you entitled to my body because you took me to Applebees for the 2for $20? Have a seat. Perhaps I am alone in this, but I just feel that as women, we need to realize we don’t owe anything to anybody. Our bodies belong to us, and it’s time for us to take ownership. We can pick and choose who we want to give it up to and when you want to give it to simply because its ours! We get ourselves into ambiguous bullshit because we are not vocal about what it is we really want. There’s nothing wrong with the conventional way of doing things. Not fucking,then dating, then relationship. No. Courting needs to make a fucking comeback. Pussy needs to be earned. By way of dates, consistent texting, and respect.Then we can talk about sex.
Since I’m already on my soapbox, I’ll take it one step further. Boys:stop complaining about how expensive it is to have a girlfriend. We live in the greatest city in the country. There’s a little thing called GroupOn , ever heard of it? Also there is mad free shit happening every day that you could take your boo to. Stop complaining, and get creative! *drops mic*
My inspiration for this particular post came from my friends and their current relationship statuses. I have a lot of friends who are in undefined relationships.That’s just the nature of things these days.How they start is usually unconventional and unplanned. Once a precedent is set, the lines of communication get blurred,the roles are unclear, and usually someone’s feelings get hurt. How does one clear the air once it’s gotten too deep? This is important to consider. As I said I’ve been on vacation for the past two weeks, and have had a lot of time to reflect. All of us have been in situations that have forced us to decide if we want to continue the ‘relationship’ or move on to someone else. There has definitely been times where I allowed my true self to be stifled.Either because I didn’t want to rock the boat or I was afraid of how the party would react. In light of recent personal events, I say loudly and with conviction, FUCK THAT. All of those relationships ended,so what would it have mattered if I just said what I felt? At least I would’ve been true to myself. That is what’s important. I don’t ever want to feel like I can’t say what I really feel. As women, we really need to take a step back and evaluate how we are relating to the opposite sex. You can’t expect to get different results if you’re using the same formula. At the end of the day, there is no perfect solution, there is just trial and error,and the evaluation of the results. If shit isn’t working out, just stop. No one is forcing you to continue being in a situation or pursuing a situation that makes you unhappy. You are the captain of your fate. If it’s not working, it’s okay to acknowledge that, Loudly. Demand what you want. Pussy is a powerful weapon, and females need to start coming to battle ready to fight.