I’m convinced that our generation loves to make shit hard. Particularly when it comes to cultivating relationships. Between cuffing season, cultivating rosters, the lack of clarity and intention behind a budding relationship, we really fuck ourselves up on the daily. What happened to, ‘I like you, you like me, let’s do this?’ At some point, you really gotta sit down with yourself, and say, self: what the hell do I want, and why can’t I have it?
Some of ya’ll be having ideal situations and be LOOKIN for ways to fuck it all up. You meet somebody decent, and you spend much of your time trying to figure out what’s wrong with them. Or letting minor issues become full blown concerns, because you’re not mature enough to say ‘this shit bothers me.‘Or lining up backups just in case current bae is trash. Or obsessing over the fact that you’re getting older, you’re turning 30, what’s my purpose in life, blah blah. Things are really a lot simpler than you realize.
Life does not have to be this stressful. Once you realize what you want and what you need, you will go out of your way to make sure that you get it. If you can’t get it, wasting time on the bullshit won’t be appealing anymore. If there’s no problem, don’t LOOK for problems. Sometimes, things are really as good as they seem to be. We have to stop letting cynicism and doubt effect the flow of relationships.
There has to be more intention behind the relationships we are trying to cultivate. There has to be purpose. That starts with us. Are you actively pursuing everything that makes you feel alive, or are you making excuses? Still making decisions based on old ways of coping in uncomfortable situations, or are you finally admitting that you could handle things better? How accountable are you holding yourself?
It’s high time that we act purposeful in all areas of our lives, by being more honest, and more intentional. Not spending time with people who don’t add shit to your life, being transparent about your wants and needs when it comes to pursuing relationships, and stop being so fucking scared all the time. I think that our generation forgot that love can be magical, relationships can be good, and that it’s not a race to see who can one up each other. Slow the fuck down, and really think. We owe it to ourselves to do the self work in order to have healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Life is short; spend more time having genuine connections with the people around you, platonic or romantic.