This post is dedicated to the super LIT pre-screening of HBO’s new series, ‘Insecure,’ which debuts on October 9, starring Issa Rae.
First off, the pre-screening block party for the show was amazing. Free swag, free drinks, and free food from various vendors around nyc. I don’t know about ya’ll, but I like free.
Secondly, performances by up and coming artists who are featured on the show was genius. I found myself intrigued at these new songs infiltrating my eardrums. I was here for it!
FINALLY, watching the first episode was awesome! I have to say this: it’s so REFRESHING to have positive relationships between black women on television. We needed that.
For those of you living under a rock, ‘Insecure,’ the show follows the awkward experiences and racy tribulations of a modern-day black woman. I love that the friendships are really relatable. What I like about my friends, my team, is that we don’t bullshit each other. We love each other enough to tell each other when we’re fucking up. That’s real. We will fight anybody who crosses any member of the team, and we really celebrate each other. I fuckin love my friends man. What I also love about the show,is that it really celebrates positive relationships between women. We are so used to seeing girls beating each other up on TV or talking shit, or some other mess. In reality, being in your 20s is only bearable if you have someone to go through the craziness with. It was everything I needed it to be and more, and really made me think about the value of girlfriends.
People underestimate the importance of girlfriends. In my opinion, everyone should have someone to confide in, and if you’re lucky, more than one in your circle. It took me until college to really find a suitable squad to hold ya girl down. I’m happy to say that I’ve known the majority of my friends for 10 years if not more. I always admired those that were lucky enough to meet their people early on in life.
I started thinking about all the important qualities a best friend or quality homegirl should have.
A Girlfriend should:
-Keep all your secrets until the day you die. also keep embarassing pics of you off the internets.
-Make you laugh. a lot.
-Give you great advice, and call you on your bullshit.
-Love you even when you’re being an asshole.
-Be loyal to you, and fight/shade other bitches who talk shit about you.
–NEVER cut you off for bae. Real girlfriends know the importance of having good friends AND bae in their life.
– Have similar interests/ideals as you.
-Know you better than you know yourself.
-Let you borrow their clothes and shoes if necessary.
-Takes you home when you drank too much. Binge eat ice cream/watch rom coms/cry with you when you’re going through it with bae.
-Celebrates all of your accomplishments.
-Wants the best for you, ALWAYS
If you’re lucky enough to have some bomb ass girlfriends, hold on to them. They are truly a rarity.
“As people grow up, they realize it becomes less important to have more friends, and more important to have real ones.”– Laguna Beach