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That.may.be…

Let’s talk about it! I’ve been sitting on this topic for months now, mainly because I’ve been gathering my thoughts and whatnot. I think ya’ll remember when I did a piece on virgins right? Super fun. Well the fact of the matter is, other people are having sex. Ya’ll are having sex, and we should talk about it.

Get ready to be SUPER uncomfortable, because we are gonna talk about STDs, or sexually transmitted diseases for those of ya’ll who aren’t hip.

Here’s why: STDS are running rampant, whether we as sexual beings wanna talk about it or not. Maybe you’ve had one (no judgment), maybe you know somebody who has one. Maybe you’ve had a scare. Either way, it seems to me that everyone acts like they are being ‘super careful’ and are so ‘knowledgeable’ when in reality you don’t know shit and you’re being careless as hell. So allow me to school ya’ll.

Common myths about getting prego:

1.You Can’t Get Pregnant the First Time You Have Sex

It may seem like the odds are in your favor, but there’s no reason to risk it: You are just as likely to get pregnant the first time you have sex as any other. “In fact, some statistics say that 20% of people get pregnant within a month of starting sex,” says Dr. Yen.

2.You Can’t Get Pregnant During Your Period

It is unlikely, but still possible—especially if you’re not using a condom or birth control. Some women have long periods that overlap with the beginning of ovulation, which means they can be fertile even though they’re menstruating.

Say you have a short cycle (21 days, for example) and your period lasts a week. If you have sex close to the end of your period, you could become pregnant since sperm can live for up to 72 hours in your reproductive tract.

       3.Can I get pregnant during my period?

The only time this can happen is when a woman has a shorter than average cycle. For example, a woman who has a 21-day cycle will ovulate around day seven. If she has intercourse on the fifth day of bleeding, it’s possible she could get pregnant because sperm can live for up to five days and would be present in her fallopian tubes when she’s ovulatin.- fun fact!

         4.How soon can I use a pregnancy test?

Over-the-counter tests are very sensitive and can detect the pregnancy hormone (hCG) in urine by the day of your missed period –and sometimes a day or two before your expected period. If you test any sooner than that, you’ll probably get a negative result even if you are pregnant. If you get a negative result on the day of your expected period but your cycle hasn’t started, try repeating the test in 48 hours. Most urine tests are accurate a week after your expected period.

Here are some things you should know about STDs, because some of ya’ll started having sex and got amnesia.

-People can get STDs when they engage in vaginal, anal, or oral sex [AHEM, i.e. eating the groceries, getting head, giving head. Get it?]. The only sure way to prevent getting an STD is to not have sex. If you have sex with someone who has an STD, you can get it, too.

-Condoms can dramatically reduce your risk of contracting STDs when used consistently and correctly, but they don’t provide 100 percent protection. Still, if you are going to have sex, make sure to protect yourself and your partner.

Chlamydia

– Chlamydia is the most common curable STD. However, the reason chlamydia is so common is that most people who get chlamydia don’t have symptoms for weeks, months, or even years.

Gonorrhea

– Symptoms of gonorrhea include burning when urinating and, in men, white, yellow, or green discharge from the penis. Oh, and if you’re one of those people who thinks that oral sex is safe sex (or isn’t sex at all), you should know that gonorrhea can also infect the throat.

Trichomoniasis (mmm betcha ya don’t even know what that is huh?)

– Trichomoniasis is the most common STD in sexually active young women. Some women may mistake this infection for a yeast infection or bacterial vaginosis since the symptoms are similar: frothy discharge, strong vaginal odor, pain on intercourse, irritation and itching. And, if your partner is a woman, you could be passing the disease to each other as well.

Things I Think Ya’ll Fools Should Know About Sex and STDs in General:

1-Pulling out isn’t foolproof. Grow up.

2-Unless you are totally fine with getting pregnant right now, why are you so comfortable with the stress of possibly  being pregnant? Pet peeve: when girls act ‘surprised’ their period didn’t come….even though they don’t use condoms. Someone wasn’t paying attention in health class.

3- There is no safe way to give and receive head. You run the risk of catching something regardless.

4-You can bleed and be pregnant. You can also contract STDs even with condom use.

5-No one wants to talk about yeast infections. Trust me, your girlfriend either has one as we speak, or has had one in the past. Also, every time a girl switches bodies, she’s at risk to get one. Shit is annoying.

I just need everyone to grow up and be smarter about sex. You wanna do grown tings like bone, but you can’t open your mouth and ask questions pertaining to your body? Come on.

So many dummies taking unnecessary risks still, like our vaginas are replaceable. They aren’t actually.

I think everyone I know has participated in risky sex. I think it comes with curiousity, sexual experimentation, and thinking you’re invincible. That’s fine, when you’re like 18. But all of us are closer to 30 at this point. Everyone has to be responsible for their own decisions. Everyone has to be more vocal about what they want, and need.

What I want is to be able to have honest conversations with my partner about our bedroom activities. If I can’t have a frank conversation about periods, yeast infections, or any weird shit that may go down,( because Lord knows vaginas are unpredictable), we shouldn’t be sleeping together no way.

I hope I made all of you significantly uncomfortable and more aware. Good Day.