The Lessons You Learn After It Ends

What now? I just can’t figure it out
What now? I guess I’ll just wait it out (wait it out)
What now? Somebody tell me
What now?

I don’t know where to go
I don’t know what to feel
I don’t know how to cry
I don’t know ow ow why
I don’t know where to go
I don’t know what to feel
I don’t know how to cry
I don’t know ow ow why
I don’t know where to go
I don’t know what to feel
I don’t know how to cry
I don’t know ow ow why

So what now?

– Rihanna, what now

I love when previously coupled females try to spew life lessons they have garnered after a
breakup.the purpose?so that chronically single girls can feel better,because at least you learned something,even if your heart has been ripped out of your chest.

These are a few of my favorites:

“I learned to cook better,and keep house.Therefore,I’m more desirable to the next guy I meet.”

^first of all,why was your ass not cooking and cleaning before you met this fool?if you’re a female there is no reason at this age to not be self sufficient and orderly. Do better.

‘At least I know I’m capable of loving someone.’

^That’s great,except that also means you’re capable of getting your heart stomped on.No one talks about that part,do they?

‘At least,we had some good times,and the sex was good.’
^What good is that now that you’re back to being single?One of the best things about being with someone is guaranteed ass.duh.

‘I’m stronger now.’
^Maybe in 6 months.No one can tell me that after a breakup u don’t feel weak and vulnerable.Please.

‘At least I know exactly what I want now.’
^but why did you stay with him for 5 years before you realized that’s what you didn’t want?I didn’t realize our lives were eternal.

Now I’m not saying all this to be negative.All of us have taken something positive from all of our failed relationships.We’ve learned about our strengths,weaknesses,and ultimately what we can do differently in the next relationship.The most hilarious thing though,is the newly coupled up girls who gloss over the in between phase.By this I mean when you first break up or get dumped.When a situation ends,your first thought is not ‘welp,at least I LEARNED something.get the fuck out of here.

here are some common thoughts….

‘wow.i can’t believe it ended like that….’

‘the sex wasn’t that good anyway…’

‘I’m so much better off without him..’

‘damn…why does this hurt so much…’

‘ I didn’t know I could cry this much..’

‘why didn’t he love me?what’s wrong with me?’

‘I’m gonna be alone forever.’

‘fuck this shit,I’m getting drunk.’

‘I miss him.’

There.Now that’s real.Women need to be real with themselves and talk about all that comes with the aftermath of a breakup.The lessons only come after the pain has subsided..and that,friends,takes time.

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